People who are stressed about something need to go through two assessments, one is the initial assessment and the other is the reassessment. An initial assessment is to determine whether something is relevant to you or not. When you feel that something has nothing to do with you, you are less likely to have a stress response to it. If something is about you, you reassess whether your resources can handle it. When coping resources are sufficient to solve the problem, you are less likely to have a stress response. When the resources we have to deal with a situation exceed the resources we have to deal with it, we develop a stress response. Of course, we can't objectively assess stressful events and our own resources to deal with them. Especially insecure people, they will exaggerate the severity of stressful events and underestimate their coping resources. #资源应对力 #损失厌恶 #损失敏感 ˃ʍ˂ Insecure people tend to act more insecure and irrational because they're constantly worried that they don't have enough coping resources to cope well with loss and disadvantage.( ‘-ωก̀ ) peoples对某件事情产生应激需要经过两次评估，分别为初评估和再评估。初评估指判断某件事是否与自身有关。当你觉得某件事与自己无关时，你就不容易对这件事情产生应激反应。如果某件事与自己有关，你就会进行再评估，评估自身的资源能否应对这一事件。当应对资源足以解决问题时，你不容易产生应激反应。一旦事情的解决资源超过了我们所拥有的应对资源时，我们就会产生应激反应。 当然，我们并不能客观地评估应激事件和自身的应对资源。尤其是缺乏安全感的人，他们会夸大应激事件的严重性和低估自己的应对资源。缺乏安全感的人之所以会表现得更不安、更无理取闹，是因为他们一直担心自己的应对资源不足，无法很好地面对损失和不利。

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